sometimes people take the position that they are completely free from blame in something, even if they are the most to blame in that instance, simply because they didn't have any initial intention of causing any hurt. it's such a self-serving attitude to have, to keep telling yourself that because you didn't MEAN for something to happen that it was somehow completely out of your control and that you don't need to think about it beyond that it happened. it's so unfair to everybody else that your actions have affected, because they never asked to be affected by you but it happens sometimes and you can't ignore that, just because you didn't 'plan' on it. you can't seriously just not care! i don't believe that. :|